Choosing a good username for dating red flags when dating someone
Try not to typecast yourself with a username that indicates a niche hobby or interest.It may help you meet like-minded people, but think of all the people who won’t pick you just because they don’t share that one interest. Researchers were surprised to discover that this usually backfires with both sexes: At worst, people think you’re lying; at best, they think you’re materialistic.Consider the gender you’re trying to attract with your dating profile.Women may be more likely to contact someone whose username indicates they’re well read and cultured, whereas one researcher found that men were less likely to choose someone with such a moniker.Big Mikey9inch may sound clever to you, but chances are Sweet Jen28 will want nothing to do with a guy who feels the need to "advertise" (particularly when you're probably closer to Not So Big Mikey4inch).Have fun with your screen name, but avoid being vulgar or cocky.Save your showing off, money-wise, for the first date.
"A profile without a photo means one of two things to a woman: in a relationship or not so attractive," says Jane Coloccia, author of Confessions of an Online Dating Addict.Stay away from names that denote wealth or immaturity. Craig Wax, senior vice president at Match.com, recommends "coming up with a name that gives an indication of what you are all about.So, for instance, if you like to ski and like to cook, your user name could be Skiing Chef.She will want to see your face, so shots with sunglasses and/or baseball hats might as well not even be there."A hat leads her to assume you have a balding problem that you are trying to hide," says Coloccia.
And have someone take your picture for you—a self-portrait in the bathroom screams My Space or desperate loneliness.