It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single, attractive, heterosexual woman over the age of 40 must be in need of a man.
Or so Carrie Bradshaw would have you believe; and she is mostly right.
And maybe that’s where the cool 40-something men are hanging out, too. A lot of single 40-something females look and feel fantastic They do Pilates and yoga, they’re energetic, they take care of their skin and are into healthy eating.
Perhaps the benefit of not haemorrhaging energy into family stresses?
This is one of life’s big mysteries but sometimes I think the key is identifying the right places to look. When you’re over 40, you’re usually pretty comfortable in your own skin You know what you like, and what you don’t.
Maybe you would prefer to hang out at cafes, museums, film festivals and art galleries.
But for me, and my three best friends, the key word is “want” rather than need.
We all have fulfilling careers, lots of good friends and interesting lives.
You have to work hard to find someone you really want and really like – or, as one married male friend put it, “someone normal” (apparently normal men are in short supply).
The search is a kind of journey, and along the way you tend to learn a few things about yourself, and about the society we live in. Everyone knows lots of fabulous single women in their 40s …but can’t think of any equally fabulous single men the same age.