Father daughter relationship regarding dating
The more she spoke, the more I sensed something that wasn't humor at all, but a mask for what was hidden -- something painful, and it was only now beginning to surface.When we were in the middle of a group exercise designed to draw the students out, I took a leap of faith and asked her if she had a father who was fully present growing up.She said that a girl's experience of parental love with her dad pretty much serves as the model to what male love is all about, and if it's a positive experience, she'll do better later in life -- that his love can help make or break her self-esteem.
If she'd had what I called "father love." Then she went on to explain that her father, who was emotionally unstable, had left when she was very young.
He resurfaced when she was a teenager, and she tried to help him by being his caretaker for many years.
It was the second time in a matter of weeks that I'd heard a woman open up about her relationship with her father. The second was during a writing workshop, when one of my students -- a woman whom I assumed to be in her 40s -- mentioned she was back in college, making up for lost time and trying to figure out what to do with the rest of her life.
She was in my class because she said she had lots of funny stories to tell and she wasn't sure where to start.
Most women of that era didn't tell their husbands what they expected of them as a parent.
Years ago, I heard a pediatrician interviewed on a radio show talk about father/daughter relationships.