French vs american dating
What I got from pop culture is that American people call “dating” the process of seeing someone that one is currently sexually attracted to and officially romantically involved with.
From this it is understood that the important aspect of “seeing someone” revolves around “going on dates.” For example: to go have coffee, to go have food, to go to the movies. No, at least not in said movies, but that is rather an aftereffect of the MPAA.
Going on step further, the epitome of postmodern dating would probably be the infamous , which literally translates to “adopt a guy.” The website is proud to aim only at no-strings-attached hookups.
Grindr could be the American app equivalent, but targeted to the gay male community.
One of them was, “Get the money before you take your shirt off.” What!
No court, no romanticism, whatever happened to Ashton Kutcher’s spirit? Slowly I realized that I’d been fooled again by this idea of flawless America, replete with puritan mores.
The loneliness of big city life and the relief offered by technology thus seem to make us both demanding and dependent while fearing engagement and rejection.
So I took a second to look back and consider my own experience. The second time we had even more fun and ended up making out. There was no first date, there was no going to a restaurant, there were just two people hanging out and attracted to each other.
I met this American guy in Paris, last year, random situation, friend of friend. I am not saying this kind of casual encounter is representative of the whole population, but talking with friends from here made it seem something common.
Blame it on the comfort of asynchronous communication, on modern feminism, on the financial crisis, on efficient matching made possible by online dating websites, one of the most prominent being Ok Cupid — the old-school method has been rendered obsolete.
In France the biggest online dating website recently launched a video advertisement emphasizing the difficulties of meeting new people once friends around you have settled, when you live in a big city, etc.
Furthermore, while browsing the internet on the subject, I found this recent piece The End of Courtship?
In a nutshell, the author argues that traditional dating in America does not exist anymore.